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Turning Over a New Leaf with an Enhanced Self-esteem


Turning Over a New Leaf with an Enhanced Self-esteem


Turning over a new leaf” is an idiomatic expression which means making a fresh start by changing yourself in a positive way. It means starting over by behaving in a better or acceptable way. In essence, turning the page is starting a new chapter in life where there is much hope it will be better than before.

Many people use the phrase at the start of a new year, finding it as the most auspicious point in time to make changes in themselves. Of course, you do not have to wait for a new year to begin the necessary changes because now is always a good time to turn over a new leaf. A fresh start is always challenging, and change can be daunting. If you are equipped with an adequate level of self-esteem, you can achieve the change you want for yourself.


Feeling 100% Sure of Yourself

Whether you are reeling from a recent loss, beginning a job search, feeling discouraged by a career setback, or simply wanting to change the way things have been going in your private or professional life, it may be time to give yourself a clean slate and start anew. Whatever the situation that is causing you internal turmoil, you can pull yourself out by having a positive attitude and revaluating your abilities.

The way you feel about the world is directly connected to how you feel about yourself. Psychologists have called this “self-esteem,” an inherent appreciation of your own worth. More specifically, it means seeing yourself as being competent and able to have full power over your own life. Self-esteem is the degree to which you feel confident, consider yourself valuable, and respect your own self. It requires that you have a favorable self-appreciation or self-opinion, even when others are not responding to your essential emotional needs.


The Importance of Self-esteem

What is self-esteem? “Self-esteem refers to a person’s overall sense of his or her value or worth,” (Adler and Stewart, 2004).  Experts consider it as the degree of one’s morals and how much they appreciate or like themselves. It is perceived as the habit of trusting one’s own skills, abilities and traits. It is valuable from several perspectives and essential to healthy emotional development. For example, the belief in your own worth and the capacity to achieve your goals are important tools to adequately face the challenges of growing and developing.

Self-esteem involves a variety of beliefs you hold about your own self, such as an evaluation of your own image, emotions and behaviors, which all play a significant role in your motivation to make appropriate plans and decisions. Even though others may not agree with you, your self-esteem can help you navigate the challenges and pressures with a positive assertive attitude. It heavily influences your choices and decisions that will allow you to explore your full potential.


A person with high self-esteem reflects the following positive characteristics:


  • Rarely doubtful – Being assertive means a person knows what they want and how to achieve it. With self-esteem, you choose a path and stand by your decision instead of faltering from one choice to another without being unclear on what you really want.


  • Genuine personality – Confident people never try to mimic others or act in a fake manner to look cool or better than what they really are. Self-esteem allows you to appreciate yourself and help you realize you are good enough so there is no need to change yourself.


  • Firm adherence to your ideas – Even in the face of rejection, people with self-esteem stick to their ideas and do not allow anyone to convince them to drop it, knowing it is of real value. In case of a wrong decision, there is the confidence to accept fault and change the idea, if necessary.


  • With full command and sense of direction in life – This means knowing the direction where life is heading and being in command of reaching the desired destination.


  • Not easily manipulated by others – One inherent sign of self-esteem is the ability to make decisions for your own life and not to be influenced by what others say, do, or want for you.


  • Feeling totally good with yourself – If you feel comfortable with yourself, you can do whatever you want without constantly requiring approval from others or feeling inferior to other people. You simply love yourself.


  • Not seeking approval from others – There is no need to turn to others, or check what other people think about your action. Having self-esteem means you do not need others to tell you that you have made the right decision because you know it from the start.


If you cannot relate to these signs, it means your performance and growth is being limited by your sagging self-image and diminished faith in yourself. Overcoming poor self-esteem is one of the 9 good reasons to seek counseling now in order to start the process of accepting and appreciating yourself.


Slumped in Low Self-esteem

The lack of or too little self-esteem can leave you feeling defeated or depressed. It is often reflected by negative thoughts such as “I am ugly,” “Nobody cares about me,” “I am not good enough,” etc. Having low self-esteem is not an emotional health problem, but the two are closely linked. There are some feelings triggered by low self-esteem, such as hopelessness, hating your own self, or blaming yourself unfairly, which can be symptoms of an emotional health issue.

A negative self-perception can result in feelings of worthlessness, incompetence, and being unloved. This can lead to unwise choices, destructive relationships, and failure to live up to your full potential. Without enough self-esteem, you are constrained from doing the things you want to do or say. In fact, daily life interactions can become difficult and tormenting for you. Low self-esteem can negatively impact many life aspects, including emotions, relationships, work, etc. Seeking individual counseling may be beneficial to explore the root cause of how your low self-esteem evolved.


Some of the signs of low self-esteem include:


  • Lethargy
  • Significant change in appetite
  • Depressive mood
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Lack of interest or enjoyment in things as you did before
  • Social withdrawal
  • Guilt feeling


If you notice these signs in yourself, you can turn over a new leaf with the support of a credible professional.


Counseling Unfolds a New You

Today’s fast-paced and ever-changing world brings about changes resulting from various technological and informational breakthroughs. These changes affect people’s lives in many ways. Some changes bring happiness and joy, others bring sorrow and pain. To successfully survive through these changes, it is essential to create a sense of stability within yourself – a sense of worth, identity, and confidence. You need to resolve your emotional issues to have self-esteem.

Self-esteem is very important to protect yourself from being used and abused. It does not necessarily mean being happy and positive at all times, but it means that your intrinsic belief in your own self remains intact, whether you feel sad or low. Irrespective of changes that take place, high self-esteem will always propel you to keep going.

If you are intent on turning over a new leaf, lift the weight of poor self-esteem and overwhelm off your shoulders. You may benefit from self-esteem counseling, so you can navigate through the challenges and succeed in this world. Turn to help from the right fit counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC. Someone trustworthy can work with you to elevate your self-esteem, so you can feel good about yourself. Call now to set up your first appointment.

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Counties: Cumberland, Bladen and Sampson Counties, NC
Areas: Fayetteville NC, Ft Bragg NC, Pope Field NC, Silver City NC, Linden NC, Bowmore NC, Autryville NC, Bunnlevel NC, Erwin NC, Dundarrach NC, Pineview NC, Rex NC, Lemon Springs NC, Johnsonville NC, Eastover NC, Stedman NC and Wade, NC
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  • Becky Clark, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Anxiety, Depression, Individuals, Couples, Geriatrics, Criminal Justice, Stress Management, Loss and Grief related to death, disability, divorce, deployment, “empty nest”, retirement and other major life transitions
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