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Teen Counseling: Toward a Fulfilling Journey

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Teen Counseling: Toward a Fulfilling Journey

 

Adolescence can be your child’s future fountain of inspiring and happy memories. For this reason, many parents will do whatever it takes for everything to be “perfect” for them. Unfortunately, such an ideal is close to impossible. Since sad and unfortunate events cannot be completely removed from the life equation, not every experience or memory can evoke good feelings. There may be at times fateful or tragic occurrences that can conjure unhappy, frustrating or traumatic emotions.

The good news is that bad experiences can become memorable too, in a positive way. This is because what can matter more isn’t the experience per se, but in how your child progressed through it. Knowing this is a good reason why you may need to help your child learn the positive lessons life will offer, even from the worst experiences they may have early on.

Are you wondering how parents can be a positive influence on a growing adolescent child? Start by understanding them and their juvenile tendencies and what is going on in their minds. Having been there yourself, you may think you know what you need to, but not necessarily – the 21st century teen is much different. What are the “basic teen things” that you may need to know as a parent?

  •  The teenage brain is still maturing. Your teen may have the physical size of an adult, but inside their heads they still have a brain that’s developing or “under construction.” According to Strauch (2003), which was cited in Erin Morgan’s Adolescent Growth and Development, “… the connections between neurons affecting emotional, physical and mental abilities are incomplete” around this developmental stage.

In fact, the frontal lobe can only reach full development at or around age 25. This part of the brain’s function in controlling emotions, impulsivity, attention, and empathy. These ongoing changes in the brain are the reasons why your teenager may struggle in controlling their feelings, impulses, and perceptions.

 

  •  Teens are a curious bunch. It is natural for teenagers to be curious about a lot of things. This can be a great source of knowledge for them, helping them mold their perspectives, philosophies, beliefs, insights, and preferences as they grow older. All these can help mold them to become the person they want to become.

Unguided, however, their need to satisfy their curiosity and their thirst for new experiences may also be risky. They may experiment or try a lot of different things that aren’t necessarily safe. With guidance, your teen can still draw positive lessons, even from these unfortunate experiences. Therefore, it can help if there is a counselor to help your teen process their experiences.

 

  •  Their raging hormones can contribute to their moodiness. Imprudent, overemotional, selfish, ungrateful – these are just some adjectives that adults often use to describe their adolescent children. They will slam doors and stay cooped up in their rooms for long hours on end. They will act out their frustrations and change their appearance to catch the attention of peers. They may argue with you endlessly about anything and everything. What’s the mystery all about? The shifting levels of their hormones.

This is an important change in your teen. You may miss the young, cuddly and obedient child who used to just silently cuddle in your lap, but this is very much a part of adolescence. You can’t stop the raging hormones and their mood swings, but you, along with a capable counselor, can help them navigate through their confusion, awkwardness and other challenges with greater ease.

 

  •  Discovery of identity and establishing independence are difficult processes. Aristotle once said, “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” The adage holds a deeper meaning for teenagers because discovering their sense of self is crucial in finding direction and what they want to pursue in life. This is the fundamental reason why they are driven to figure out who they are exactly and why they may need to work on being independent.

These tasks or processes can be tough since their identity constantly changes as they face many powerful factors. A lot of teens get confused along the way. With the many challenges, they may likely fare better if they are assisted by a qualified counselor.

 

  •  Families are their first source of inspiration, as well as pressure. As others do, teens love their families. Consequently, their families can wield a strong influence on them. This is revealed in their behaviors, decisions, thoughts, insights, beliefs, values, etc. Family support, love, and positive experiences can, therefore, be their source of inspiration. Similarly, family conflicts, perceived lack of appreciation, eagerness to please the parents or make them proud, and restrictions can distress and pressure them.

There may be a lot of love within a family. Sometimes, however, no matter how much love there is, conflicts can be hurtful for many teens when things aren’t agreeable. This is the reason why they may need counseling, so they can see the positive lessons they can derive from the family differences and conflicts.

 

  •  Teens are more predisposed to stress and emotional conditions. This is the stage for many changes – physical, physiological, social – not to mention the complicating processes of identity formation and quest for independence. Since changes bring about challenges, they may have a full plate. If some aspects of life are speckled with difficulties – parental divorce, sibling rivalry, low self-esteem, identity crisis, peer pressure, etc. – their vulnerability can be compounded.

All the challenges and issues in their lives can result in them being vulnerable to depression, anxiety, overwhelm, guilt, etc. If the home is becoming a source of their challenges or if they can’t find support from the family, they may have the tendency to seek acceptance and refuge from others. Guidance, enlightenment and compassion – these are among the many benefits that counseling can offer.

 

  •  They are often misunderstood because of the “generation gap.” Here in the 21st century, is a time when technology rules. Teens can still be moody, but their issues can differ greatly from the ones you faced in your time. For instance, they have the internet and social media that can influence the very core of their existence. These may offer positive benefits for them, but it can also breed some ugly things, such as internet or gaming addiction, too much social media, cyberbullying, and a myriad of other distractions. No wonder they can become dependent, even addicted to it – something many of their elders may not quite understand.

Technology is useful and powerful, it would be extremely difficult to wean a teen from it. Issues like this can be too sensitive for many parents. This is one good reason for teen counseling or to let a professional counselor help.

 

Some things in a teen’s life can’t be changed. Physical, hormonal and neural changes can bring about, not only a new milestone, but growing pains as well. While many may successfully sail through these challenges, a significant number will struggle. While this may be typical, too many emotional issues can stagger them or weaken their resolve. There could be weighty repercussions – distressing day-to-day life, unsatisfying and broken relationships, unsatisfactory performance in school, adjustment and social difficulties, low self-esteem, failed quest for identity formation and independence, etc.

Adolescence can be fun. It can be the happiest years of their life and a source of their life’s inspiration. While there are certain things that you cannot change, you can provide them all the help they need to succeed in their own way. That can start with teen counseling – you can seek help from a qualified counselor/therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC.

You need not journey with your teen alone. An impartial counselor independently contracted with CCS – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC can travel with you and your teen as you navigate through their many challenges. Counseling can help your child sort out and understand their issues, assess their symptoms and provide treatment and find resolution if they are showing the symptoms of an emotional condition. The process can also assist you in gaining a better overall understanding as a parent. Call today!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services

 
Counties: Cumberland, Hoke, Bladen, Sampson, and Robeson Counties, NC
 
Areas: Fayetteville NC, Ft Bragg NC, Pope Field NC, Hope Mills NC, Raeford NC, Rockfish NC, Sliver City NC, Linden, Cedar Creek NC, Bowmore NC, Autryville NC, Parkton NC, Bunnlevel NC, Erwin NC, Dundarrach NC, Broadway NC, Pineview NC, Lumber Bridge, NC, Rex NC, Lemon Springs NC, Johnsonville NC, Eastover NC, Stedman NC and Wade, NC
 
Zip Codes: 28301, 28302, 28303, 28304, 28305, 28306, 28307, 28309, 28311, 28312, 28314

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Choose your Therapist

  • Shnika Davis LCSW, LCAS-A

    Specializes in: (Ages 6+) Depression, Substance Abuse, Life transitions, Grief and Loss, Trauma, Anxiety, Adjustments Disorders, Family, Couples and Marriage
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fayetteville, NC
  • Becky Clark, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Anxiety, Depression, Individuals, Couples, Geriatrics, Criminal Justice, Stress Management, Loss and Grief related to death, disability, divorce, deployment, “empty nest”, retirement and other major life transitions
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare Select, and Cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fayetteville, NC