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Teen Anger | Reading Between the Lines

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Teen Anger | Reading Between the Lines


Your adolescence could be among the happiest days of your life, but could your teen child enjoy this phase as much as you did? Certainly, adolescence is not all about pleasure and enjoyment. It has a dark side too, that is instigated by their surging hormones.

Hormones fuel their physical and emotional growth, which simultaneously fosters consciousness and awareness toward self. The construction of new neural connections may overwhelm them, but these allow them to discover their identity, develop and affirm their independence, and find reasons to explore the outside world. Building relationships outside the family will take center stage. These, along with academic challenges, will unlock the floodgate of new emotions.

As they are inundated with new and raw feelings, they may be confused and misunderstood. Struggling with the new and raw emotions and having difficulty governing their responses, their behaviors or manifestations can be unpredictable. For many, releasing their emotions can come in the form of anger. While it is a natural human emotion, it deserves attention, especially when it is intense, persistent, unreasonable, and it is damaging their relationships.


Teen Anger is Natural

Relax! Not every irate teen has anger issues. Considering the enormous changes and challenges during adolescence and swamped with emotions they have not felt before, it is natural that that they are confused and angry. Do you know that one in five or 20 percent of adolescents uses anger to express their confusion and overwhelm?  The emotion is driven by the immense changes in their brains, appearance, academic demands, and social pressures.

The surging of hormones will drive the change in their appearance and the construction of new brain connections. As they change physically, their self-perception also evolves. It is primarily influenced by their appearance. This means that if they perceive that they are different from the “standard,” which could be how their “role model” looks, they may feel inadequate. Their inability to accept how they look, such as their shape, their skin color, the texture of their hair, etc. can shake their confidence and self-esteem or self-image. 

Their newly developed brain connections will motivate them to think deeper. This can lead them to many realizations that will help them discover their identity, develop their opinions and beliefs, and establish their independence. Being eager to gain acceptance from peers, they are bound to feel dejected when they sense that they do not “fit in.” Starting to be attracted to the opposite sex, their “crushes” can either inspire or distress them. Their increasing tasks, responsibilities and pressures at home and school may also heighten their pressures and yes, anger.


When Anger Means More

The enormous challenges during adolescence justify their anger. According to Parenting a Teenager, it is both a response and a defensive mechanism that is meant to protect themselves against perceived adversities and to adjust to the changes happening in their bodies and life. One too many teens “act out when they feel rejected, and sometimes feelings of anger can turn into aggression.” It is also common to express their confusion in the forms of defiance, disobedience or not “toeing the line” at home and school.  

Though ignoring their anger can result in your life being easier, indifference may not necessarily be effective or respond well to their needs. Know that anger can also be a sign of emotional conditions. Studies reveal that anger is a common manifestation of conditions, including anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, conduct disorder, oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), and bipolar disorder. Ignoring anger may not help when your teen is gripped by any or a combination of these conditions. Without treatment, the symptoms can worsen, leading to unhealthy “coping behaviors,” such as drinking, smoking, and experimenting with drugs.

The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (AACAP) says that teen anger may also be triggered by a profound emotional wound.  Some triggers include “…being the victim of physical abuse and/or sexual abuse, exposure to violence in the home and/or community, genetic (family heredity) factors, exposure to violence in media, combination of stressful family socioeconomic factors (poverty, severe deprivation, marital breakup, single parenting, unemployment, loss of support from extended family) or brain damage from a head injury.”


What to Watch Out For

Common as it may be, anger should not be ignored, particularly when it is seriously affecting your teen’s relationships. If they are constantly having conflicts with you and their siblings, or you are often called to school for their offensive behavior triggered by unrestrained anger, paying attention is important. If they are perpetually arguing and they are already being avoided or they are avoiding people, it is a sign that they are struggling with the consequences of their uninhibited anger. Be warned that if the root is an emotional condition or trauma, the issues can intensify, affecting their health and school performance.

Without professional help, your teen’s anger may become worse. Be vigilant because it may unfold as slowly or as fast as they change or grow. This means noticing the telltale signs. According to My Health Alberta, it is typical for teenagers to show signs of irritation or a pending fury. AACAP also shares that it is important to pay attention to the signs of forceful anger, blowups or recurrent loss of temper, excessive irritability, extreme thoughtlessness, and the tendency to be easily disappointed.


According to AACAP, anger and aggression can also be the consequence of the complicated interaction of factors, which include:

  • Previous aggressive or violent behavior
  • Being the victim of physical abuse and/or sexual abuse
  • Exposure to violence in the home and/or community
  • Being the victim of bullying
  • Genetic (family heredity) factors
  • Exposure to violence in media (TV, movies, etc.)
  • Use of drugs and/or alcohol
  • Presence of firearms in home
  • Combination of stressful family socioeconomic factors (poverty, severe deprivation, marital breakup, single parenting, unemployment, loss of support from extended family)
  • Brain damage from head injury


Resolving Teen Anger the Healthy Way

Emerging from the innocence of childhood and preparing for greater challenges and responsibilities of an adult, teens have a lot going on in their bodies, brains, thoughts and life. Not everyone will have an easy time and will succeed in becoming a well-adjusted adult. Some may not be completely spared from bouts of anger, even fury. There is, however, a way to help them rein in their frequent, intense and unjustified anger. The key is to work with a trustworthy and experienced therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC.

As a parent, you have an important role to play for your child to survive their adolescent challenges. Spurts of explosive anger that happen with frequency and intensity must not be ignored. Pay attention to the nuances of their behavior to read the signs of unhealthy anger and be able to provide the right kind of help.  Aside from your unconditional love, counseling and therapy can be sought – this is the best form of support that you can give a confused teenager.

A caring counselor/therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC can help your teenager. This office lives up to the CCS credo and commitment to “Make life a little better, one client at a time.” This is achieved through matching its clients with a right-fit counselor.

If the root of their anger is an emotional issue, professional help can make a difference in overcoming their challenges. Seeking assistance from a counselor independently contracted with CCS – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC can also empower you to be a more effective parent while your teen curbs their anger or finds a way to divert their energy into productive endeavors. Call today!

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