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How to Protect Your Marriage after the Honeymoon Period Ends

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How to Protect Your Marriage after the Honeymoon Period Ends

 

As a couple, you can say that your wedding day is one of the happiest days in your life. The days and months that immediately follow the wedding day are fresh, romantic and filled with hopeful excitement. During the magical honeymoon period, you learned new things about each other and shared experiences together. The early years of marriage can be an exhilarating time with high levels of intense feelings, strong emotions, and the idealization of one’s partner.

The period may last for weeks, months, and if you are lucky, even for a couple of years. Unfortunately, the honeymoon period does not last forever and once the magic starts to fade, the thrill is replaced by the reality that marriage is not always a bed of roses. As for many couples, the end of the honeymoon period can “make-or-break” the relationship. It really takes a lot of work to live happily ever after because things can become difficult down the road. Sometimes seeking the support of a professional while the initial excitement has not yet diminished can be beneficial to proactively protect your marriage with counseling.

 

Settling into Married Life

No matter how perfect you started as a couple, you are bound to face the reality that the honeymoon stage is just a phase that, sooner or later, passes away. As you settle into the more stabilized ebbs and flows of married life, there are pitfalls that can become potential killers of those strong feelings. Regardless of how well you know each other there are a lot of differences that can surface between you and your partner. 

The dose of reality may hit you as you notice that the initially high level of marital satisfaction is gradually wearing off. A New York University study delivers a most disappointing finding that the honeymoon phase has an expiration date. Results reveal that 14 percent of males and 10 percent of female respondents turned out to be extremely unhappy in their marriage after 30 months. Additionally, 86 percent of women reported a gradual decline in satisfaction.

If you are a newlywed or soon-to-be married, there is no need to panic. Instead of waiting for potential problems to rock your union, marriage counseling can be a preemptive measure to maintain your connection over time regardless of what obstacles are thrown your way. It is easier to do some minor interventions early on to retouch some patches than to do intensive marital therapy when things are already beyond repair.

 

Early Red Flags in Marriage

 

  • Finances – Learning how to balance each one’s spending habits and financial situation is a stressful shift for every newlywed couple, especially if one is earning significantly more money than the other. Frequent arguments about money may be settled by working with a nonpartisan party to help you adjust to the new situation and come up with a financial goal that serves you both.

 

  • In-Laws – It is true that marrying a person comes with their family too. Interacting with the in-laws, especially during high-stress situations such as the wedding planning process, is a common issue for newlyweds. The clashing of personalities may continue even after the wedding. Communicating the tension with your partner may help, but it can be difficult to stay neutral. Whether you make a clean break from your family or align with the in-laws is one of the common sources of early marital conflicts. It may be warranted to seek intervention in starting your own family and maintaining your existing families, as well.

 

  • Housework – Even if you have similar expectations, it can still be disappointing when they are not met when you start living together as a married couple. One area that many couples find frustrating is the division of household chores when a spouse feels they have a greater share of the tasks than the other.

 

  • Intimacy – It is common for newlyweds to experience a decrease in intimacy as they settle into married life. With new priorities in life, private time with each other may become the least priority as couples juggle busy schedules at home and at work.

 

  • Health – Many couples tend to be complacent in maintaining a healthy lifestyle as they settle comfortably with one another during the first year of marriage. As a result, personal hygiene and fitness become detrimental not only to the relationship, but for the couple’s health as well.

 

  • Communication – Being married for a few months can be quite a revelation. Many things that used to be adorable and endearing have become suddenly annoying and drive you crazy. Disagreements are inevitable, but the way you work through conflict spells a different scenario. Misunderstandings that are not resolved through productive communication can be an additional source of marital distress.

 

  • Children – Marriage can take a downward spiral in satisfaction after the birth of the first child. Many relationships take a precipitous dip with the children as common sources of tension.

 

These issues on their own should not be reasons to ruin a marriage meant to be a strong one, but they certainly can cause unnecessary stress in any relationship. Having the right support to resolve these potential problems before they even surface can give your marriage a good head start. As a newlywed couple, it may be advantageous to start off your wedded life with marriage or couples counseling to enjoy its many benefits further down the long journey.

 

Moving Past the Honeymoon Blues to Build the Foundation of a Successful Marriage

The first couple years of being married are said to be mostly “roses and chocolate.” They are often remembered as a tremendous time of romance. At the same time, they are also said to be the most difficult, a period of adjustment and discovery. There is so much to learn, to give, to share, and to express to one another.

The intense feelings may fade after the honeymoon stage, but it is also the perfect time to build the foundation and set the stage for a lasting, meaningful relationship. While marriage counseling may be the last thing on the minds of newlyweds, pursuing it at this early period speaks volume about how much you value your relationship.

All marriages are bound to experience one or more causes of difficulties that can challenge the foundation it stands on. While nothing can insure how long a marriage will last, the power to create an enduring marriage is in your hands. Let Carolina Counseling Services – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC help you start with a positive experience in marriage counseling. One of the independently contracted counselors may be the right fit professional to work with you in resolving budding difficulties before they become bigger. Early counseling keeps you open-minded about seeking professional help in the future. As the saying goes, it is always better to be safe than to be sorry later. Early counseling is a preventive measure better than seeking a cure when the problem is already deeply entrenched.

It is unrealistic to try and recapture the early spark of your marriage, but with marriage counseling, you can replace that spark with a strong foundation built on trust, honesty, objectivity and open communication. Call, text or send an email to CCS – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC to request an appointment.

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Fayetteville, NC (North)

Counties: Cumberland, Bladen and Sampson Counties, NC
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FayettevilleNC 28311

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  • Shnika Davis LCSW, LCAS-A

    Specializes in: (Ages 6+) Depression, Substance Abuse, Life transitions, Grief and Loss, Trauma, Anxiety, Adjustment Disorders, Family, Couples and Marriage
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare

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    Location: Fayetteville, NC
  • Becky Clark, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Anxiety, Depression, Individuals, Couples, Geriatrics, Criminal Justice, Stress Management, Loss and Grief related to death, disability, divorce, deployment, “empty nest”, retirement and other major life transitions
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    Location: Fayetteville, NC