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How to Care for and Raise Your Anxious Child

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How to Care for and Raise Your Anxious Child


Feeling anxious is a natural human emotion. It is a necessary biological reaction that helps a person, whether young or old, respond with swiftness during emergencies. If the reactions of your child are intense, persistent and happen even when there is no sensible reason, though, there is a good reason to be worried. Have his/her responses assessed by a professional. These could be indicators that your little one has an anxiety condition.

Anxiety can contribute to your child’s difficulties while growing up. As the symptoms become intense, they can become overwhelmed and their functioning affected. As a parent, you may experience challenges as well. You may become disappointed when you can’t “sweet-talk” the child to do as other children do – eat and sleep on their own, play with other children, attend school, etc. You may also resort to disciplinary strategies that do not work.

Rather than impose harsh discipline or helplessly watch your child go through the difficulties, seek help from the right professional. Anxiety is an emotional condition. The symptoms won’t just dissipate without the appropriate treatment or interventions. Pay attention because these could be anxiety signs that your child needs therapy. To foster his/her emotional health, seek professional help. The right therapist not only will give a proper diagnosis of the condition, they can also provide the child with the appropriate treatment.


Child Anxiety: A Growing Concern


Child anxiety is real. More and more children are showing signs of the condition. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, one out of eight children in the United States manifest the symptoms of the condition. Other studies show that the pervasiveness of anxiety disorders in America can be higher than 10 percent. This means anxiety is the most widespread childhood emotional health issue in the country.

One reason for its prevalence is the fact that its symptoms are not that easy to recognize in children. For one, they are “born anxious.” They wear it like a “second skin,” protecting themselves from anything that they are not familiar with or they can’t understand, whether real or imaginary – monsters under the bed, darkness, strangers, being separated from their parents, etc. The feelings of discouragement and fear are also a part of their emotional development. In a healthy child, these anxious responses fade as they get older and become more independent.

Children with anxiety issues, however, may experience persistent fears beyond their years. This could be the reason why your child aged 10 may refuse to board a school bus or a child aged 8 does not want to be left alone at night. While the “fight or flight reaction system” can be an important biological response intended to protect them during emergencies, unregulated it can wreak havoc on their physical and emotional health. Unrecognized and ignored, the condition can become more overwhelming as they grow older.


The Signs of Child Anxiety


If your child has an anxiety issue, there will be telltale signs. Remember that it is easy to miss them, so take note. Thinking that these are all passing phases won’t help. If their fears and responses are intense, overextended or are affecting their everyday life, it is always best to seek a professional opinion.

While it is natural for children to misbehave from time to time, excessive misbehavior can be a sign of anxiety. If the child is also extremely well behaved, watch out! Anything unusual must be duly noticed or brought to the attention of their doctor or of their therapist. Sharing vital info to the child’s therapist can help them resolve your child’s anxiety-related behavioral issues.

The signs and symptoms may also vary from one child and type of anxiety disorder to another. There are a number of these conditions, namely: generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), social anxiety disorder, specific phobias, panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), separation anxiety disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Hence, there could be over a hundred possible signs and symptoms.


While the symptoms may vary from one type to another, nevertheless, there are also common manifestations of anxiety, regardless of the type. These are:


  • finding it hard to concentrate
  • not sleeping, or waking in the night with bad dreams
  • not eating properly
  • quickly becoming angry or irritable, and being “out of control” during outbursts
  • constantly worrying or having negative thoughts
  • feeling tense and fidgety, or using the toilet often
  • always crying
  • being clingy all the time (when other children are ok)
  • complaining of tummy aches and feeling unwell


Contributors and Complicating Factors of Childhood Anxiety

To this day, and despite medical advances and breakthroughs, the exact causes of anxiety are still poorly understood. There are studies though that show how the condition can be influenced by certain factors. Some of these are genetics, areas of the brain and the chemicals within (neurotransmitters), eventful life occurrences and learned behavior.

Children who have genetic predispositions, meaning they have at least one parent who is anxious, have a higher risk for anxiety. There are also other factors that may affect the expression of the gene. There is the family environment, or your family interactions and parenting style, that may influence the gene modification, expression or inhibition.

Major emotional events in your child’s young life may also result in gene modification, expression or inhibition. Some examples of these major life events that can set the stage for the little one’s anxiety are the splintering of the parental marriage, passing away of a loved one, as well as sickness or financial troubles in the family. Abuse and growing up in an excessively monitored or violent environment may also contribute to the child’s insecurities and fears.


The Strategy: Raising Your Child with the Help of a Therapist

Your love for your child can be best expressed by fostering, not only sound physical health and healthy development, but by nurturing their emotional well-being as well. Seeing that they are experiencing difficulties, just hoping and waiting can be futile. Where your beloved child is concerned, it is always best to be proactive. If indeed your child is struggling with anxiety or some other emotional condition, the best decision you can make is to seek help right away from a proficient and caring child therapist in the neighborhood. There is one place to go to find the right fit independently contracted counselor/therapist – Carolina Counseling Services – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC.

Child anxiety isn’t something to take lightly. It is a growing concern because many (about 80 percent, says Anxious Toddlers) of those who have the condition remain undiagnosed and untreated. Recognizing the uncommon or unique symptoms of the different types of anxiety can truly be a big challenge for parents. Spotting the common signs, nonetheless, can be done, if you are vigilant. This is one area that you can focus on.

There is much at stake if your child has anxiety but not getting treatment might allow matters to become more difficult. It can become worse and increase their vulnerability to other issues, such as depression, low self-esteem, slow development of life-skills, inability to perform well in school, poor health and social/interactive skills, and even increase the risk for substance abuse. You must not procrastinate. The best thing to do is continue loving and supporting your child. That starts with a call to set their first appointment with an experienced counselor/therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC. Call today!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services

Counties: Cumberland, Bladen and Sampson Counties, NC
Areas: Fayetteville NC, Ft Bragg NC, Pope Field NC, Sliver City NC, Linden NC, Bowmore NC, Autryville NC, Bunnlevel NC, Erwin NC, Dundarrach NC, Pineview NC, Rex NC, Lemon Springs NC, Johnsonville NC, Eastover NC, Stedman NC and Wade, NC
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  • Becky Clark, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Anxiety, Depression, Individuals, Couples, Geriatrics, Criminal Justice, Stress Management, Loss and Grief related to death, disability, divorce, deployment, “empty nest”, retirement and other major life transitions
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