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Breaking Free from Overwhelm

Breaking Free from Overwhelm

Breaking Free from Overwhelm


Do you often feel completely worn out and frustrated because there seems to be so much going on or there are so many things to do? Do you try to “juggle” multiple tasks in an attempt to catch up? Is your head racing with thoughts of things you need to do or should have done? Are your days filled with things piled up on your to-do list that you cannot even think straight which one to prioritize? If your life is in this state, your cup could be overflowing with overwhelm.


A Nemesis Called Overwhelm

Overwhelm is one type of emotional paralysis that disables your ability to face and resolve your circumstances. It feels like you are lacking any organization, resulting in it being difficult for you to plan and decide on things. Overwhelm is often felt when you have too many choices or options at hand.

When overwhelm catches up with you the typical thought processes are usually negative, not helpful, and can often a trigger anxiety pangs. The feeling of being powerless and being rushed to make quick decisions fill the mind as you find yourself saying:


  • I will never be able to finish or complete this.
  • I cannot take charge of this.
  • This is too much to take.
  • I cannot do this alone.


The state of overwhelm deprives you of clarity. It prevents you from seeing things clearly, leaving you vulnerable and feeling confused about things that seem to be out of your direct comfort zone or influence. The stultifying feeling magnifies your concerns into greater proportions than they really are. As a result, you can wallow in negativity, procrastination, protest, and blame others or your circumstances for being stuck in your predicament.


Overwhelm can rob you the joy of living your life. The sense of overwhelm can lead to stress. Most of us know that undue stress is a foundation of physical and emotional health issues.


Probable Reasons for Feeling Overwhelmed

A number of factors can be related to the feeling of overwhelm. Surprisingly, some of them can be allayed, this is something within your power. It means there is an effective way to eliminate or alleviate your feelings of overwhelm – counseling. You may reap the benefits of counseling, especially if you are able to choose a good therapist who can help you make an informed decision even if presented with a different set of choices, so you can better tend to other various aspects of your life.


The feeling of overwhelm may have its origin in the following:


  • Unrealistic standards and expectations – You may be feeling overwhelmed because you have set very high standards and expectations for yourself, which can be very difficult to achieve. Committing yourself to lofty goals can fill your head and rush you to catch up in order to meet the demands of your expectations.


  • Taking on more than what you can accomplish – Trying to do more than you can physically and emotionally “juggle” can overwhelm you. Too many responsibilities and commitments to do everything on your own may clutter your mind and scatter your thoughts in many different directions. This gives you a broad perspective without a clear focus on what you need to accomplish.


  • Absence of priorities – Without priorities, your tasks or things important in your life will not be done in the most productive manner. Setting priorities can give you a sense of direction or influence over your expected outcomes. The inability to organize your life can result in overwhelm.


  • Lack of personal boundaries – Failure to define your own personal boundaries of time and space allow other people to encroach on your personal domain. As a result, your thoughts and efforts are scattered, preventing you from keeping up with your goals.


  • Running on an empty tank – You may be feeling overwhelmed because you are trying to do everything all by yourself. There is so much to do, but you are not delegating to others in the belief that nobody is good enough or able to do the task as you would. You are afraid to let others take the reins, but you end up actually losing out because you are unable to keep up with everything that needs to be done.


  • Too many distractions – Too much clutter around you fills your mind and diverts your attention from the most important things that you need to do. All the chaos serves as a heavy burden on your shoulders and prevents you from having a clear view of the tasks at hand.


  • Lack of self-care – Over committing and adding more on your to-do list, because you cannot say no, leaves you without any room for yourself. Neglecting yourself due to the need to accomplish everything you put on your plate often results in burn out, leading to a higher level of overwhelm, stress and anxiety.


Indicative Signs of Overwhelm


  • Apprehension – Waking up with fear to face things you need to do and feeling anxious that you will not be able to accomplish them can be a sign that you are in overwhelm mode. When fearfulness takes over your life, everything can become a chore, and nothing seems fun anymore.


  • Indecisiveness – When caught in the feeling of overwhelm, your judgment becomes clouded and you doubt your every decision. As a result, you tend to change your decisions because you are confused amidst the countless choices. Failure to stick to anything before it yields results may exacerbate your stress and disorientation.


  • Recklessness – When there is too much to do, and you do not feel like doing anything, you may procrastinate, only to react with hasty actions when life’s demands come knocking at your door. The feeling that you are running out of time and needing to get things done in the soonest possible time compels you to rush with careless urgency. The results, if not mediocre, can be costly mistakes, which mean more stress.


  • Procrastination – The feeling of overwhelm triggers the tendency to procrastinate, particularly when confronted with certain actions or tasks that need to be done, but you would rather not do. The habit of procrastination causes you to delay and be apprehensive about everything until you are pushed into a corner and submit into doing the task. Overwhelm then can result the more you delay and the more you lack the motivation to act.


  • Avoidance and escapism – The feeling of overwhelm can lead you to choose tasks that are easy to do and avoid the difficult ones. While you feel you are progressing, you are actually stuck in a painful cycle wherein you feel guilty for not tackling the more important concerns.


While it is true that overwhelm has become a part of modern-day living, you have power over your emotions and how they influence the quality of your life.


The Power to Beat Overwhelm Is in Your Hands

Being in a state of overwhelm may cause you to be reluctant in sharing your private thoughts and feelings. You ‘re constantly thinking that no one will truly understand and be able to help you lift the weight off your shoulders. Your family and friends may be there, but sometimes there is the right, nonjudgmental stranger who can take the place of the people you trust.

Initiate positive, life-altering changes with help from the right fit counselor/therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC. Pour out your intense feelings with an experienced and caring professional independently contracted with CCS – North Fayetteville Office – Fayetteville, NC. Take the first step. Call now to request an appointment.

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